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Nigerian Lady Narrates How She Couldn’t Sleep With Her Husband Months After She Got Married As A Virgin



A Nigerian Lady Married Husband

A Nigerian lady who married as a virgin has taken to social media to reveal how she couldn’t have sex with her husband for months.

The woman, identified as Titothewriter, shared some of the traumatic experiences she was subjected to, including being raped by a doctor. She also revealed that she and her husband had to find other ways to have fun even after undergoing surgery to avoid consummating their marriage.

On their first wedding anniversary, she took to her social media page to share;


As hard as I tried, I never was the little girl that had dreams about her wedding. For the most part, I just wanted the major stakeholders to be happy. Let everyone enjoy themselves and have money after the wedding.


Therefore, when the situation arose that warranted a privately intimate wedding, it wasn’t much of a bother to adjust because the picture of happiness I had did not warrant anything happening.

However, as much as I never thought of any preconceived ideas of what my wedding would look like, I knew what it wasn’t going to look like. And for the life of me, it was not that my husband and I would have a major issue with consummating our marriage (properly) for months!

The issue is called Vaginismus and no, I’m not ashamed of it so please don’t help me to be ashamed of what I’m not ashamed of. Vaginismus is more of a mental condition than it is a physical one. So imagine my surprise when the honeymoon I had pictured was laden with pain, tears, and fatigue! Oh, I cried! I cried so hard! Because we had fought to get to where we were! People were congratulating us and we were grateful but what was this?

The pain? Excruciating raised to a power of 1000! I was in pain! Intense, serious, and body-shaking pain. My husband hurt from watching me writhe in pain. What was a lubricant? What didn’t we try?

A few weeks after, nothing had happened and I was very tired of hearing “just close your eyes…” “you’re imagining the pain…” “It’s not that hard.”


I went to a gynecologist at Iwaya…

To be continued tomorrow because tears have filled my eyes now

On the 26th of January, exactly one month after our wedding, I decided to seek medical help. I drove myself to the hospital at Iwaya, Yaba. This was my first-ever gynecologist visit.

I explained to a general physician first and then I was referred to the CMD of the hospital. I remember walking in head down in shame as if I brought it upon myself. That part does not work again sha.

I sat in front of this thick man with no name card or plaque in sight. Not on his door, table, or overall, I should have walked away but I did not because I did not even know what to expect.


I explained everything to him, in between tears. I literally felt I could not do anything, no matter how much my husband encouraged me. “How long did you people date for?” he asked almost eyeing me. “2 years and 8 months,” I answered. “So you people dated for close to three years and you didn’t have sex?” Now he was irritated. “No, we didn’t.” I was smiling, trying to change the topic. “So the rest of us are sinners? Abi? Look at it now. Three years, no sex?” His words felt like a dagger in my heart because, at the time, I was already asking God why He asked that we remain sexually pure if the process of deflowering was this painful. This man asked me almost five times if I’m sure I’m a virgin. I answered that I clearly am. Except for the sexual abuse that happened when I was a child which would have obviously sponsored that reality!

He went ahead to minimize everything I said. And then asked me to lie on the examination table. After checking the first time, the guy said there was a seal than can easily be removed with his fingers. Brethren, those were the worst three minutes of my life. I fell from the table as I ran from this pain. The pain was about to numb my ears and my feet. I screamed but it came out as muffled groans because tears poured too much. The matron he had sent for had to shout at him to stop!

I couldn’t drive home after that incident. I had to call my husband to come to get me. Tears didn’t stop for almost an hour. I kept crying and crying!

At that point, I vowed to encourage premarital sex but…

As we drove home from that silly doctor, I was very quiet. The tears did not stop. At this time, I wasn’t trying to cry. My body just was exhaling. My body knew it had been violated. My husband would have gone to bring the place down but the issue at hand was more serious to me than getting the idiot to pay.


He had told us to try that night but we could not. We could not even try that week. I bled for about two days too. At this point, I was sure that I was going to be an ambassador for premarital sex! God had deceived me, I was going to get Him back!

Then I called my aunt. She’s a top consultant in Ibadan and long story short, we were in Ibadan, University College Hospital, the next week.

The professor we saw? Oh, what an amazing man!!!! He cried with me, he consoled me, and when it was time to examine me, and he encouraged me when I hesitated a couple of times. I started crying on the examination table without anyone touching me. After examination, he prescribed Lidocaine (a numbing lubricant) and said we should try but if nothing happened, the surgery would be carried out.

Thursday of that week, I was in UCH for surgery! I was completely put under. I didn’t even know when I slept off. They called it digital dilation. My husband was a rock! Complete support and Aunty D too! My mum could hardly sleep or breathe, oh I don’t want to go into my mum’s reaction! It’s too much! The woman was literally broken.

Anyway, brethren, after spending the little we spent and the time, my body was knocked out for two weeks after that surgery. I was dizzy for two weeks nonstop.


The. Surgery. Did. Not. Work! At this point, I lay on the bed and asked God what I had done to deserve this pain. Shebi if it was just difficult, it would have been different. The pain was completely beyond me! It would reverberate underneath my feet almost numb my ears! It wasn’t a cute pain or a bearable pain!

The professor had told us that if the surgery did not work, we were to return for a procedure where I’ll be numbed waist down and then we try in view of professionals! Samuel swore that it will never be him or his wife! So that was a no-go area!

When we returned to our base, we both decided to leave it. We were tired. As in I was very tired and we were barely two months into the marriage.

What was worse? I hadn’t even asked God anything. Everything we had done up until that point, we did with our logical calculation. I didn’t even consider God. I didn’t ask if it was His will, I became Uzzah and ran to help God. I didn’t realize what I’d done until HS and I had a conversation and He chided me gently. I cried.

Aunty D and the Professor kept calling to find out the progress we had made and I had to gently tell her to leave it be. My mental health had taken such a hit that I could not even have anyone constantly checking on us.


My husband and I decided to enjoy each other. Ladies and gentlemen, penetrative sex is not the only sex in the world. It’s not. So rest very well. I have never and will never support masturbation but your husband can familiarize himself with you. Hiding can’t work. Open up and let the exploration begin.

We needed to unlearn the expectation that penetrative sex was the ultimate goal, it is not. Sexual satisfaction is. Find what works for you and do it well.

Then came a program called “Sex, Love and Goop” on Netflix. There were many things I did not agree with in that documentary but our breakthrough came through a procedure on the show; Calculated breathing.

I realized that what my body was doing was natural. It was preventing me from an “anti-body” and the reflex action was to close up. When I consciously take calculated breaths before we begin, I allow my body to relax. I also began to have conversations with my mind “This is good for me. This is good for us. He is one of us now.” In. Out. In again. Out again. Slight pain. In. Out. Deeper. In. Out.

Like that, we. won. Whoosh! God! The first time, it still hurt but it was bearable. The second time, the pain was more bearable and like that, Jesus got the victory.


Relax. Rest. Enjoy yourselves. There’s more to marriage than sex. Trust me. By the time you get the victory, sex will be an added bonus. You can be intimate without penetrative sex.

Here are some lessons that I got from the situation:

1) Marriage is warfare. It makes no scriptural sense that those who have preserved themselves, with the help of God, for marriage should find that much pain before they derive pleasure. Some people are still stuck there even after having children. It cannot be God’s promise. This is why prayer with a lot of thanksgiving is something no marriage should scrimp on. Please pray so much and so well and make sure your thanksgiving is more than your prayer point. It is warfare that has already been won.

2) When something is beyond you, give it to the Person beyond life and leave it there. Vaginismus is not your fault. You didn’t cause it. Therefore, rest!

3) The mind can be retrained. Your body has “prevented” you from sex all your life. Therefore, mild exercises like calculated breathing, kegel exercises, and the like will help retrain your mind.


4) Sometimes, there may be something else you need to work on. In our case, there was a hidden issue on my husband’s part. We spent almost a month detangling and removing and in two weeks after all was settled, we had a breakthrough. I’m not saying you should become a paranoid CIA agent. I cried out to God one day in tiredness and asked Him to show us if we had anything that sponsored the delay. Immediately after that Hannah like prayer, things began to unfold. Please PRAY!!!

5) God never wastes situations. The amount of couples that have been saved since the 27th of this month is such a miracle. One day, God told me that He walked me down this path because He needed someone to deliver His babies! So I’m not just talking, angels are backing me up! There is purpose in your pain, child of God! If all you see is your pain, you will lose sight of God.



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“I Don’t Know What I Did To Deserve This” – Man Who Forgave His Wife For Cheating Breaks Down In Tears As She Dumps Him After Their Businesses Crashed



A Kenyan Man Wife Business

A Kenyan man, identified simply as Rajab Abdul, is heartbroken after his wife left him after their business went bankrupt.

The father-of-two has revealed that he once forgave his wife after cheating on him, but she dumped him at the first sign of trouble.

Rajab said when he and his wife got married, they had a wonderful relationship. He said they started a very successful fruit business and eventually opened a fast-food restaurant.

However, their business suffered a setback during the COVID-19 pandemic, which strained their marriage.

“I remember one day I asked her if she had weighed the meat that was delivered by the supplier to confirm if we were paying for the amount ordered. She got so upset and attacked me with a knife. She cut my leg. I still have a scar to date. I forgave her,” he said.


 Man who forgave

Their business continued to decline and he was forced to seek work outside of town in order to support his family.

He claimed that on one occasion, he returned home earlier than planned and found his wife in bed with another man.

“I could not believe it when I saw them on my bed. It hurt so bad. I forgave her because I knew my children would suffer if we separated.” he said

He said he decided to forgive her and they continued living together after she promised to stop her philandering ways.

However, he was shocked again when he returned from work to an empty house. His wife had carried everything in the house, including his clothes.


“I don’t know what I did to deserve this. It is very painful. I cannot stop thinking about my children. I don’t want them to grow up without me. I would like to tell her to remember that our children need their father even though she no longer wants to be with me,” he said with tears rolling down his eyes.

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“I Am Happy I Left” – Mother Of Two Shares Before And After Photos Of Herself Six Years After Walking Out Of Her Marriage



A Mother Of Two Marriage

A mother of two, identified simply as Olasumbo, has taken to social media to show how she has changed beyond belief six years after leaving her marriage with her children.

Alongside her recent photos, the 30-year-old shared photos of herself as a married woman six years ago and how it turned out to be a decision she’s forever grateful for.

According to Olasumbo, when she left her marriage in 2017, she was mentally, emotionally, and financially drained.

She said she had no idea what to do next, but knew she had to run for her life and protect her children at all costs.

Read her full story below,


“This is what I looked like when I walked out of my marriage in 2017 with two toddlers. I just clocked 30, I was mentally, emotionally and financially drained. I was tired and i knew i had to walk away. Did i know what i was going to do next? No but i walked,” she wrote.

“Okay let me tell you why it looks all shitty, I left my marriage clueless about the next thing to do but knew I had to run for my life yet I has no family support. I was not lucky to come from a stable family background, my ex saw this and capitalised on it.

“The marriage was 4 years old as at when it officially ended but it was dead from the beginning. I know the judginas will ask if I didn’t see the red flag…well story for another day but well the deed has been done and now I have two kids who had no fault.

“My entire desire was to protect my kids. I mean they know nothing about the folly and stupidity of the parents that brought them to this world. I saved up and got my own apartment. I remember crying so much the first night I moved into my new home. I was scared.

“I had never gone on this kind of journey before and i don’t know how to walk this path. I was totally confused and clueless. I was more afraid for my kids, scared they would suffer which i do not want, what if they fall sick and I can’t take care of them? So many what ifs.

“All these was in 2017….this is 2023 and yes it has not been a smooth journey…my life has taken a pause because I was not opportune to have a family support and I had to learn, unlearn and relearn on my own. My career has suffered so much. Yes.


“My wants, desires has all been pushed to the base because I can’t afford all at once so my kids come has not been an easy ride doing this alone, no single financial support from the man who bore them even though he has 100% access to these kids.

“I look back today and ask myself if it is all worth it and Yes I am happy I made that decision. I am proud of the pains, the tears, the laughter. I am proud for holding myself strong despite the stigma and backlash that comes with being a single mom. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ME.”

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“I Bought It For ₦1.5 Million” – Woman Excited As She Sells Land For ₦90 Million 15 Years After Purchase



A Nigerian Woman Piece Of Land

A Nigerian woman is currently delighted because a piece of land she bought 15 years ago is now worth N90 million.

In a TikTok video, the elderly woman, who appeared to be speaking to her children, revealed that she bought the land N1.5 million years ago when it was just a farm and was not developed.

Woman excited

15 years later the land is now worth N90 million, giving her a handsome profit of N88.5 million.

In her words,

“I bought land for N1.5 million, if you want I’ll bring the receipt for you 15 years ago. It’s currently selling for N90 million. It was somebody’s farm that I bought. There was corn, there were all sorts of things. I saw ridges there. I was the one that took them out.”


The video was shared on social media by a TikTok user who responded to it with extreme shock.

Watch the video below,

The video went viral on TikTok, sparking a flood of comments from social media users who claimed that land is a good long-term investment.

A TikTok user wrote: “15 years ago 😳

1.5m. Na rich woman nothing you wan tell me”

Ezekiel Ovey wrote: “My boss bought land 6,000 naira as 30yrs ago but now the land is 55millions but he’s not selling, was telling me about land investment to follow up”

@officialkaycee wrote: “My dad bought a land for #250,000 when he was 30 years old and now he is 59 and the land is selling for 25m”


Steph NK wrote: “Land is a good investment…My husband bought 2plot 1.2m in 2015 and he wants to sell 1plot now, and they’re pricing 6m. from one plot 6 hundred to 6m”

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