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Nigerian Lady Narrates How She Couldn’t Sleep With Her Husband Months After She Got Married As A Virgin

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A Nigerian lady who married as a virgin has taken to social media to reveal how she couldn’t have sex with her husband for months.

The woman, identified as Titothewriter, shared some of the traumatic experiences she was subjected to, including being raped by a doctor. She also revealed that she and her husband had to find other ways to have fun even after undergoing surgery to avoid consummating their marriage.

On their first wedding anniversary, she took to her social media page to share;

A WHOLE YEAR AFTER

As hard as I tried, I never was the little girl that had dreams about her wedding. For the most part, I just wanted the major stakeholders to be happy. Let everyone enjoy themselves and have money after the wedding.

Therefore, when the situation arose that warranted a privately intimate wedding, it wasn’t much of a bother to adjust because the picture of happiness I had did not warrant anything happening.

However, as much as I never thought of any preconceived ideas of what my wedding would look like, I knew what it wasn’t going to look like. And for the life of me, it was not that my husband and I would have a major issue with consummating our marriage (properly) for months!

The issue is called Vaginismus and no, I’m not ashamed of it so please don’t help me to be ashamed of what I’m not ashamed of. Vaginismus is more of a mental condition than it is a physical one. So imagine my surprise when the honeymoon I had pictured was laden with pain, tears, and fatigue! Oh, I cried! I cried so hard! Because we had fought to get to where we were! People were congratulating us and we were grateful but what was this?

The pain? Excruciating raised to a power of 1000! I was in pain! Intense, serious, and body-shaking pain. My husband hurt from watching me writhe in pain. What was a lubricant? What didn’t we try?

A few weeks after, nothing had happened and I was very tired of hearing “just close your eyes…” “you’re imagining the pain…” “It’s not that hard.”

I went to a gynecologist at Iwaya…

To be continued tomorrow because tears have filled my eyes now

On the 26th of January, exactly one month after our wedding, I decided to seek medical help. I drove myself to the hospital at Iwaya, Yaba. This was my first-ever gynecologist visit.

I explained to a general physician first and then I was referred to the CMD of the hospital. I remember walking in head down in shame as if I brought it upon myself. That part does not work again sha.

I sat in front of this thick man with no name card or plaque in sight. Not on his door, table, or overall, I should have walked away but I did not because I did not even know what to expect.

I explained everything to him, in between tears. I literally felt I could not do anything, no matter how much my husband encouraged me. “How long did you people date for?” he asked almost eyeing me. “2 years and 8 months,” I answered. “So you people dated for close to three years and you didn’t have sex?” Now he was irritated. “No, we didn’t.” I was smiling, trying to change the topic. “So the rest of us are sinners? Abi? Look at it now. Three years, no sex?” His words felt like a dagger in my heart because, at the time, I was already asking God why He asked that we remain sexually pure if the process of deflowering was this painful. This man asked me almost five times if I’m sure I’m a virgin. I answered that I clearly am. Except for the sexual abuse that happened when I was a child which would have obviously sponsored that reality!

He went ahead to minimize everything I said. And then asked me to lie on the examination table. After checking the first time, the guy said there was a seal than can easily be removed with his fingers. Brethren, those were the worst three minutes of my life. I fell from the table as I ran from this pain. The pain was about to numb my ears and my feet. I screamed but it came out as muffled groans because tears poured too much. The matron he had sent for had to shout at him to stop!

I couldn’t drive home after that incident. I had to call my husband to come to get me. Tears didn’t stop for almost an hour. I kept crying and crying!

At that point, I vowed to encourage premarital sex but…

As we drove home from that silly doctor, I was very quiet. The tears did not stop. At this time, I wasn’t trying to cry. My body just was exhaling. My body knew it had been violated. My husband would have gone to bring the place down but the issue at hand was more serious to me than getting the idiot to pay.

He had told us to try that night but we could not. We could not even try that week. I bled for about two days too. At this point, I was sure that I was going to be an ambassador for premarital sex! God had deceived me, I was going to get Him back!

Then I called my aunt. She’s a top consultant in Ibadan and long story short, we were in Ibadan, University College Hospital, the next week.

The professor we saw? Oh, what an amazing man!!!! He cried with me, he consoled me, and when it was time to examine me, and he encouraged me when I hesitated a couple of times. I started crying on the examination table without anyone touching me. After examination, he prescribed Lidocaine (a numbing lubricant) and said we should try but if nothing happened, the surgery would be carried out.

Thursday of that week, I was in UCH for surgery! I was completely put under. I didn’t even know when I slept off. They called it digital dilation. My husband was a rock! Complete support and Aunty D too! My mum could hardly sleep or breathe, oh I don’t want to go into my mum’s reaction! It’s too much! The woman was literally broken.

Anyway, brethren, after spending the little we spent and the time, my body was knocked out for two weeks after that surgery. I was dizzy for two weeks nonstop.

The. Surgery. Did. Not. Work! At this point, I lay on the bed and asked God what I had done to deserve this pain. Shebi if it was just difficult, it would have been different. The pain was completely beyond me! It would reverberate underneath my feet almost numb my ears! It wasn’t a cute pain or a bearable pain!

The professor had told us that if the surgery did not work, we were to return for a procedure where I’ll be numbed waist down and then we try in view of professionals! Samuel swore that it will never be him or his wife! So that was a no-go area!

When we returned to our base, we both decided to leave it. We were tired. As in I was very tired and we were barely two months into the marriage.

What was worse? I hadn’t even asked God anything. Everything we had done up until that point, we did with our logical calculation. I didn’t even consider God. I didn’t ask if it was His will, I became Uzzah and ran to help God. I didn’t realize what I’d done until HS and I had a conversation and He chided me gently. I cried.

Aunty D and the Professor kept calling to find out the progress we had made and I had to gently tell her to leave it be. My mental health had taken such a hit that I could not even have anyone constantly checking on us.

My husband and I decided to enjoy each other. Ladies and gentlemen, penetrative sex is not the only sex in the world. It’s not. So rest very well. I have never and will never support masturbation but your husband can familiarize himself with you. Hiding can’t work. Open up and let the exploration begin.

We needed to unlearn the expectation that penetrative sex was the ultimate goal, it is not. Sexual satisfaction is. Find what works for you and do it well.

Then came a program called “Sex, Love and Goop” on Netflix. There were many things I did not agree with in that documentary but our breakthrough came through a procedure on the show; Calculated breathing.

I realized that what my body was doing was natural. It was preventing me from an “anti-body” and the reflex action was to close up. When I consciously take calculated breaths before we begin, I allow my body to relax. I also began to have conversations with my mind “This is good for me. This is good for us. He is one of us now.” In. Out. In again. Out again. Slight pain. In. Out. Deeper. In. Out.

Like that, we. won. Whoosh! God! The first time, it still hurt but it was bearable. The second time, the pain was more bearable and like that, Jesus got the victory.

Relax. Rest. Enjoy yourselves. There’s more to marriage than sex. Trust me. By the time you get the victory, sex will be an added bonus. You can be intimate without penetrative sex.

Here are some lessons that I got from the situation:

1) Marriage is warfare. It makes no scriptural sense that those who have preserved themselves, with the help of God, for marriage should find that much pain before they derive pleasure. Some people are still stuck there even after having children. It cannot be God’s promise. This is why prayer with a lot of thanksgiving is something no marriage should scrimp on. Please pray so much and so well and make sure your thanksgiving is more than your prayer point. It is warfare that has already been won.

2) When something is beyond you, give it to the Person beyond life and leave it there. Vaginismus is not your fault. You didn’t cause it. Therefore, rest!

3) The mind can be retrained. Your body has “prevented” you from sex all your life. Therefore, mild exercises like calculated breathing, kegel exercises, and the like will help retrain your mind.

4) Sometimes, there may be something else you need to work on. In our case, there was a hidden issue on my husband’s part. We spent almost a month detangling and removing and in two weeks after all was settled, we had a breakthrough. I’m not saying you should become a paranoid CIA agent. I cried out to God one day in tiredness and asked Him to show us if we had anything that sponsored the delay. Immediately after that Hannah like prayer, things began to unfold. Please PRAY!!!

5) God never wastes situations. The amount of couples that have been saved since the 27th of this month is such a miracle. One day, God told me that He walked me down this path because He needed someone to deliver His babies! So I’m not just talking, angels are backing me up! There is purpose in your pain, child of God! If all you see is your pain, you will lose sight of God.

 

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Influencer Porsh Precious Reportedly Passes Away Following Battle With Mysterious illness

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Nigerian influencer, Precious Chinaza, popularly known as Porsh Precious, has reportedly died following an unknown illness.

The sad news of her death was announced on Friday, February 9th, in a statement released on her official Instagram page.

According to the press release, Porsh Precious passed away after battling with a mysterious illness.

 Porsh Precious reportedly passes

The statement reads,

“It’s so grieving to the demise of Precious Chigbu (AKA) Porsh Precious. Who fought so much for her life with battles with a mysterious illness. I pray God console us the family and friends. Thanks to all who supported us and ask that you continue to respect our privacy during this difficult time. Thank You”

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The news has sparked mixed reactions on social media with many internet users expressing their condolences for her friends and family, while others were in disbelief at her untimely death.

Read some comments below,

@realjuliet wrote: “Going to bed and waking up every day is such an underrated blessing mehn 🤦‍♀️ Rip fine girl 😥

@kelvin_kertz wrote: “Life is a mystery, I believe d£@th is the trumpet that was talked about in Revelation. No one knows when it will come.”

@medline_asentewa wrote: “I still can’t believe that Precious is dead😢😢😢😢 I just hope this is not true”

Meanwhile, many have claimed that she is not dead and only faked her death for clout.

@pretty_tonia wrote:She’s not dead … just chasing local clout 😂😂😂😂😂

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Access Holdings CEO, Herbert Wigwe, Wife And Four Others Die In Helicopter Crash In The US

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There is tragic news: Herbert Wigwe, CEO of Access Holdings, and his wife, Chizoba died in a helicopter crash in California on the night of Friday, February 9th.

The accident occurred near Boulder City, between Nevada and California, as the helicopter was flying toward Las Vegas.

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According to the San Bernardino Sheriff’s Department, the helicopter took off from Palm Springs Airport around 8:45 p.m. and crashed around 10 p.m. en route to Las Vegas.

Herbert Wigwe, his wife, and their son were reportedly on board the helicopter along with Abimbola Ogunbanjo, the chairman of the Nigerian Export Group.

Herbert Wigwe, wife

Herbert Wigwe, 57, was a prominent figure in the banking sector.

Our thoughts and prayers are with their families during this difficult time, May their souls rest in peace. Amen.

Meanwhile, earlier today, Nigerian influencer, Precious Chinaza, popularly known as Porsh Precious, reportedly died following an unknown illness.

The sad news of her death was announced on Friday, February 9th, in a statement released on her official Instagram page. According to the press release, Porsh Precious passed away after battling with a mysterious illness. (Continue reading here)

 

 

 

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Woman Causes A Stir With Video Of How Pregnancy Transformed Her Body (Watch)

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A woman identified as Naka has caused quite a stir on social media after sharing a video showing how pregnancy has changed her body.

Naka, who often shares couples content with her partner, Dom, posted the transformation video on their shared Instagram page and it went viral with over 32 million views.

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The woman, who had a slim figure and a small waist before her pregnancy, revealed that 2023 – the year she had her baby – was the most difficult year of her life.

In the viral video, she shared the emotional moment she found out she was pregnant and showed the positive test kit, as well as scenes from their baby shower and moments in the hospital during labor and after.

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The video has since stirred thousands of comments on social media, with many recognizing the woman’s strength while others said they thought she was carrying twins or triplets based on the size of her belly.

Read some comments below,

@eryckahsofyah wrote: “Women are so powerful 👑✨ like we dead ass bring life. Respect 🫡 ✊🏾

@1favoredgirl69 wrote: “Hard to believe that only one baby was in there”

@iamavatheexplorer wrote:
“Wow girl that pregnancy looked rough. I’m glad you made it through with a supportive partner and a healthy baby. 🤎

@beingwendy_moloi wrote: “Boys will always watch you get your summer body ready then impregnate you😢😂😂😂. Congratulations though guys, what a beautiful blessing❤️

@mizsarahadu wrote: “This pregnancy thing you don’t have it for just anybody oo you make sure you are having a baby for a man who will accept your body and even love you more after giving birth 🤷‍♀️

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